When it comes to relationships, do you... • Find it hard to say no to people? • Find yourself doing all the heavy lifting, but feel people often take you for granted? • Feel left out, lonely and resentful? Now imagine yourself...• Saying no to people without feeling guilty • Genuinely looking forward to spending quality time with others • Being clear and firm with other people about how you feel • Being open and honest about how you feel, without worrying about the other person’s response.I am Wenna, and I help people to build healthier relationshipsWe are often told ‘you need to be nice to be liked’ So, you put yourself lastYou accommodate other peoples' needs before your own; you are always the one who listens and supports others,But who is there for you? While it’s okay to be someone’s rock, it's not okay, if doing so leaves you feeling resentful and dissatisfied There is a ‘ win-win’ solution. This is to apply the same love that you give others to yourself It sounds really easy, but this is difficult if you don’t know what your needs and wants are There are ways of listening to yourself that help you clarify what is acceptable and what isn't