The world is focused on the health, social and economic ravages of COVID-19—and yet humans can only control one's own internal world of emotions, thoughts and behaviors. When these are unbalanced, we experience anxiety, depression and perhaps externalizing symptoms such as addictions and relationship conflict. The added stress of the pandemic may make it more difficult to cope than usual. This may be an opportunity to do much needed work on the most important relationship you have—the one with yourself! How else will all the other important relationships in your life be healthy and rewarding? You be the change!As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for 30 years, I have training in relationally-focused therapies to resolve obstacles to personal goal achievement and healthy relationships. I am also a Certified Addictions Professional and work with individual, couples and families in all stages of recovery.The first step to making contact with a therapist can feel as overwhelming as the feelings or problem that bring you to this moment. We as humans fear change—finding a certain "comfort" in staying with the status quo—although it no longer works. I like to say it's not the problem that is the problem, it's the avoidance of the problem. Believe in yourself!